You often wonder why people lie for no reasons, don’t you?

Some people lie for almost everything. Such people are perpetual liers. Telling lies is not a matter with them. They cannot do away with lying. It is almost like food to them.

It is true that most of us lie in certain situation in our life. It would be a blatant lie if you say that you have never lied in your life. Lying is a normal human blunder we all commit.

Why do people lie for no reasons?

• We tell lies to save our face.
• We tell lies to protect ourselves from punishment.
• We tell lies about things which did not actually happen, but want to happen.

Lying is not a dangerous habit if your lies are occasional and infrequent. It only shows you as very human. But, it can destroy the trust people have in you if you persist in lying for silly reasons.

A child never knows how to lie.

It is because he fears none. He does not have the necessity to build up his image, as yet.

This is the reason a child is blunt to the point of being rude. But strangely, as the child grows up, he too starts lying.

Do you know why?

When he was a child, he never knew fear. But, as he grows, he develops fear.

He fears the punishment of his parents\teachers\higher officials. So, he wants to escape from reprimand in whatever way possible.

The only option before him is to lie. So, he starts telling lies to protect himself. It becomes a sort of self-defense armor for him.

Can you see that fear is the basic motive why people lie for no reasons?

Here are 6 types of lies people tell!

1. Situational lies

• When you are late to work, you lie that you were caught up in a traffic jam.
• When you want leave, you lie to your higher officials  that your parents\spouse is sick.
• When your spouse questions you about the reasons you were late from work, you lie that you had important official work. But in reality, you were having a rocking time with your friends.
• Your children lie when they fear you will punish them.

These are situational lies which in this modern society cannot be avoided.

2. Face saving lies

There are times you lie to build up your image.

You see most of your friends\relatives enjoying success. You feel very small before them. You want to show them that you too are enjoying as much success as them.

So, you tell all sort of lies about how you were appreciated by your boss\spouse\friends. In fact, these sort of lies are face saving lies.

Yes.

You tell lies to project your not-so-good-image as a well-appreciated-image. When your lies are innocuous, people overlook it. But when you constantly tell lies to build up an unrealistic image of yourself, people start disliking it.

Lying to save your face is a psychological pressure you often face. When you are facing abject failures in your life, you lie to project your non-existent success.

3. Compulsive lying

But, there is one section of people who lie for the sake of it.

These people lie for no reasons. It is because lying has become a habit with them.

Like eating food, lying is an essential part of their life.  These people lie for everything under the sky.

And the sad fact is that even when such people tell the truth, you will consider it a lie.

Are you one such liar who tells lies at the drop of a hat?

You will be called a compulsive liar. People never trust you as they feel you never tell the truth.

Lies comes so easily to you that you think people listening to you are fools to believe you. While you are reeling out your lies, they laugh behind your back.

• You say you were appreciated by the management, while in reality you would have got a tongue lashing from your boss.
• You say your spouse cannot do without you, while in reality he\she wants to see the back of you.
• You lie to your boss that you have finished your work, while in reality you have not started it.

When you lie constantly, it becomes a habit with you. You no longer feel you are lying. You feel you are telling the truth even while you are lying. Lies has become so embedded in you that you cannot do without it.

This is the danger of persistent lying.

4. Dangerous lies

There are some people who lie with the deliberate intention of ruining other people’s happiness. There are liars in your workplace who tell lies to jeopardize your success.

There are liars among your relatives who spread lies about your character. You must stay away from such liars as they can ruin your life.

5. Manipulative lies

Manipulative lies are the worst form of lying. You lie to make a person seem a culprit.

You tell lies to drive a wedge of enmity between friends. You tell lies to have things done your way. You commit mistakes and coolly put the blame on other persons.

6. Lies to avoid hurting others.

There are time you tell lies to prevent others from being hurt.

Shall we see an example?

Your friend might be have bought shoes which you might feel is outdated. But, you do not want to hurt him\her by telling the truth.

So you lie. “The shoes look very good’ while in reality you feel you would not have touched the shoes with a yardstick.

This sort of lies is very innocuous and shows you as a sensitive person.

Here are the negative body language you have when you are lying.

• When you lie, your eyes are shifty.
• Your voice is not firm.
• You sometimes forget the lie you told and change if afterwards without feeling shameful about it.

CONCLUSION ABOUT WHY PEOPLE LIE

Can you see the varied reasons why people lie?

If you analyze your characteristics, the reason behind your perpetual lying is your lack of confidence.

An honest person never lies unnecessarily. He does not have the compulsion to lie without rhyme and reason. An honest person faces his problems headlong without hiding behind unwanted lies.

Inferiority complex is also yet another reason behind your lies. You feel so less about yourself that you tell lies to show you as a worthy person. You want to project a favorable image of yourself.

When you lie, you lose your credibility and trustworthiness. The pitiable thing about your lying is that only you believe in your lies, while others smell your lies miles away.