“How do you manage living alone without feeling lonely?” my friend asked me curiously.

“Why should I feel lonely?” I smiled at her.

“Your only daughter is living so far away from you. You have no one with you. I am sure you must be feeling very lost” my friend was persistently implying that I was living a lonely life.

She never knew the simple truth. I was thoroughly enjoying the solitude in my life. Of course, I miss my daughter. There are times when l yearn to see her.

But today’s modern technology has made it easy for me. l see my daughter in the video calls she makes to me daily. I also talk with my grandchildren. When I see them I feel as though I have seen them physically.

And yet another important factor that contribute to the happiness I enjoy even when I am living alone is because of the emotional connect I have with my daughter.

Since I am emotionally connected with my daughter, distance has never driven us apart. In fact, we are more emotionally close to each other than before.

Are you also wondering how living alone without feeling lonely is possible to me?

I was a typical Indian wife when my husband was alive. My world revolved around my family. I had no exposure to the outside world.

But, when my husband passed away, I was thrown open to this merciless world. My mother was my pillar of strength during my days of agony. My brothers and sister gave me incredible moral support.

But, the fact remained that I was a single parent. It was a blunt truth that I had to do all my parental duties on my own. But I survived. I made my only daughter the anchor of my life. My duties towards her made my life more meaningful and worthwhile.

My attitude also helped me overcome  loneliness

During the harrowing days of my life, I felt I was destined to suffer. I thought I will be an abject failure throughout my life.

How wrong I was.

Even as I was being battered and thrashed in my life, I always bounced back to business. God had gifted me with such a never-say-die attitude.

It was this courage that made me see through my hard times. My struggle made me evolve into a very confident woman.

I clung to my inner strength to see through my daughter’s education. She is now happily married to the person she loved.

After her marriage, bleak loneliness surrounded me again.

This loneliness was as severe and draining as the one I experienced when my husband passed away. l felt terribly deprived without the presence of my daughter around me. Her laughter, our fights, and our incessant talks became nostalgic memories.

It was as though my life line was snatched away from me. I again felt my world crumbling under my feet. There were times I cried helplessly.

“Be satisfied and happy that you have done your duty as a mother with great aplomb single handedly. Let your daughter lead her own life. Take a step away from her. She now has her own family to look after. Don’t make her feel guilty by telling her that you are missing her,” my brother advised me.

His advice was a revelation to me. I knew I was feeling lonely for nothing. “I should feel happy for my daughter,” I told myself.

How I learned the art of living alone without feeling lonely?

I now realized that I had my own life to lead.

Before my daughter’s marriage, my day-to-day life was full of parental duties without the time to think about me. Now I had time for myself. At last, I had the time to pursue my passion about writing.

Yes!

Now was the time to enjoy the passion of my life.

I bid goodbye to my loneliness. I learned the beauty of living alone without feeling lonely. When I realized that my life was not full of loneliness but full of solitude, I felt that I was blessed by God.

I now know that my life was not destined to end in failure. My sorrowful days are behind me. I am now a new person, full of confidence and assertiveness.

I wanted others to realize that there was always hope in every hopeless situation in life.

This is the reason I started this blog about self-improvement. I also have a relationship blog www.breezystorm.com which deals exclusively with relationship problems modern couples face.

I want to give practical advice to many people, who think that they are born unlucky, like I used to do. I humbly want them to realize their worth.

Though I am alone, I lead a very active life. I do all my household work by myself. I sing my favorite songs as I work.

When I write a good article, I congratulate myself loudly. I keep my mind occupied with my work.

I concentrate on being well groomed.

I go for walks regularly to keep myself fit and healthy. After returning home, I write articles, edit them, and post them. I visit my blog regularly and see how many visitors I have had.

Do you know how happy I feel to see my viewers gradually increasing?

I am also writing e-books and plan to publish it soon.

CONCLUSION

I am not telling my story to blow my own trumpet.

It is to tell you that only you can make yourself feel lonely. Don’t do that.

Are you dependent on your children for your happiness?

They will make you lonely when they move away to lead their own life.

Conclusion

“When everything is lonely I can be my best friend.” Conor Oberst

No one is worth your loneliness. So, live your life as you want to. Enjoy your life as you longed to. Indulge in your so far neglected passion.

I did all these. Now, I have mastered the technique of living alone without feeling lonely. I have  a best friend who guides me, talks to me, laughs with me, and makes me feel that I am worthy and commendable.

Do you want to know my best friend?

It is myself!