Do you know that there are times being an introvert might not be good for you?

Are you wondering how?

When you are an introvert, you shy away from meeting people. You live an isolated life with no one to share your feelings.

You often feel lonely. But you find it impossible to come out of your shell of self inflicted alone life.

Initially, let us test whether you are an introvert.

Do you feel shy of mingling with people?

Are you very self-conscious when you are in a crowd?

Do you feel people are always observing and judging you?

Are you a loner?

Do you always keep to yourself?

Do you feel apprehensive about sharing your feelings with anyone?

If it is a yes to all these questions, they are definite signs that you are an introvert.

“Telling an introvert to go to a party is like telling a saint to go to Hell.” –Criss Jami

This is the reason why many a time an extrovert scores over you.

Here is how!

An extrovert is flamboyant and lively. People love being around with an extrovert because he is always an entertainer.

You might be honest, sensitive, and intelligent. But when you are an introvert, the outside world sees you as a person who does not interact with friendliness.

So, you are judged as an enigmatic figure, unapproachable and remote. This makes people feel rather reserved to talk to you.

What could be the real reasons for you being an introvert?

You might be basically a shy person who doesn’t easily to open out to other people.

You might be suffering from an inferiority complex which makes you too self-conscious about yourself.

You might also feel that people are viewing you critically and making adverse comments about you.

Sometimes, your abusive childhood and lack of parental love in your tender age could be the cause for your introverted nature.

But sadly, being an introvert has its share of drawbacks.

How exactly does being an introvert affect your life?

1. You are too conscious about yourself

Your totally inhibited nature makes you feel conscious about yourself. Being an introvert, you are always on your back foot thinking that you will be analyzed, criticized, and made fun of for everything you do.

• This is the reason you cringe with shyness when others talk to you.
• Your reserved nature makes it impossible for you to communicate with people you are not acquainted with .
• As you are too consicious of yourself, your voice is feeble and meek.
• Your introvert nature makes you shy away from being in a crowd. So, you always take a back seat wherever you go, so that you are not noticed.

Sadly, this is a wrong way of living your life.

In this hectic world you now live in, you cannot afford to be a loner.

When you shy away from people, you can never develop people’s skill. You drastically need people’s skill for victory in your life.

The world always observes and judges your body language. Being an introvet makes you too conscious about yourself. Naturally your body language is weak and feeble.

This does not spell good for your success.

Why do you feel shy to open out with people?

Do you think that you are a lesser person than they are?

Do not be so.

Never give others undue importance and give less importance to you.

You are as good as, or even better than they are. Give yourself credit as you give to others.

Develop good body language. When you talk, make your voice firm and assertive.

Have direct eye contact with people you are talking to. Do not let anyone intimidate you into submissiveness.

Overcoming your reserved nature is a habit you should cultivate.

2. You feel lonely

Being an introvert, you invariably want to spend your time alone. You like to be all by yourself.

There is nothing wrong in wanting to spend your time alone. It becomes wrong only when you completely withhold talking with others and alienate yourself from the world.

When you are alone, all sorts of confusing thoughts flash through your mind. And as you are an introvert, you do not open out to share your worries with others.

You bury your worries within yourself and feel emotionally lost, as you do not know how to deal with it. You never share your apprehensions with your loved ones also.

When you do not share your fears and anxieties with others, you feel emotionally upset. You feel uncared and unloved. Your heart feels heavy when you do not share your inner fears.

Even if you cannot open out with everyone, you should at least have a heart- to- heart talk with someone who loves and cares for you. Problems shared are problems halved and emotions shared are emotions cared.

3. You are considered rude

Since you keep yourself away from others, people think that you are rude and offensive.

When they smile at you, you find it near impossible to return their smile.

When people make overtures of friendliness, you look withdrawn and remote.

So naturally, people shy away from you as they feel that you will turn away from them even if they approach you with friendliness. And your introverted behavior confirms their fear.

If you keep silent in your workplace, your colleagues will not include you in their circle. You will be thrust aside as an arrogant person who thinks a big deal about yourself.

They do not have the patience to acknowledge your sensitive nature. They do not have time to analyze your behavior to realize that you are not rude, but simply shy.

Your introverted nature makes people feel that you are plain conceited and arrogant. Naturally, they keep away from you. The result is that you spend lonely working hours in your workplace.

You spend most of your daily hours in your work place. And if you stay aloof from your colleagues, you will not get any cooperation from them.

Be friendly with your colleagues. Sport a smiling face and interact with them with ease. When you practice being open and approachable to people, it will come naturally to you.

You need the help of people, be it in life or in workplace to be successful.

4. You are inhibited

Being an introvert makes you keyed up and tensed when you are with people. You do not relax, as you cannot be natural with them.

When you go to a function, you feel shy to converse with others and stay with your own crowd. Even with them, you are not as peppy as they are.

When you are with others, your eyes shift around, not knowing where to fix it. Your total posture shows that you are not at all at ease and you want to be let alone.

“What are others thinking of me?”

“Am I appearing stupid and idiotic to them?”

“How can I enter the room, as it is full of strangers?”

Questions and more questions keep cropping in your mind and you feel unable to relax.

Life is short and it cannot be spent on musing about the reaction of others.

Why should you feel uncertain and shrink yourself in shyness and nervousness?

Do not underestimate yourself and place others in a pedestal. Unless you show your assertiveness, no one will notice you.

You are as talented as anyone else. But your shy nature makes you unable to stand out.

When you meet people, empty your mind off its shyness and uneasiness. If you rehearse and dramatize your interaction with others, you become keyed up.

You fumble and fret when you meet them, as your mind races in alarming fear about your conversing capacity.

Be naturally interactive. Be naturally friendly. All it needs from you is shedding your introvert attitude.

5. You never enjoy your life as you move only with your own crowd

You have your own group of friends and you feel relaxed only with them.

You are not ready to mingle with others as you feel that you will not be comfortable with them.

So, your world literally shrinks into a small community of known persons and relatives. But the world is very big and you cannot bury yourself into a small circle.

Your inner circles of friends might make you feel comfortable and relaxed. But unfortunately, they do not decide your success.

You should try to shed all your inhibitions and make yourself friendly and approachable to others.

You should also intermingle in friendliness with people. When you continue doing it, your initial fear of people will definitely disappear. And you can develop a new approachable outlook towards life and people.

Conclusion

There is nothing wrong in being an introvert.

But it becomes a deterrent to your success if you completely isolate yourself from others.

The world is wide and full of many enjoyable things. When you step out of your comfort zone, you will see that you have missed many good things in life.

So, remove your coating of introverted behavior so that you see the world in a new light of confidence and self-assurance.