Do you know your unwanted emotions destroys your life in many ways?

 

Are you wondering how?

Your life is built around your emotions. Since you live with your emotions 24\7, it literally dominates your life. So, the way you deal with your emotions decides the happiness quotient in your life.

There are some emotions, which makes your life worthwhile and valuable.

• Pride in yourself.
• Happiness about your blessings.
• Humility in spite of your fame.
• Confidence in yourself.
• Empathy towards others.
• Sympathy for the deprived.

Beautiful emotions which show you, as a man of character, isn’t it?

How many of you can confidently say that your life is built around these most wanted emotions?

Only a handful, I am sure.

Most of you never know the value of these wanted emotions of your life.

But you eagerly cultivate many unwanted emotions, which literally transforms you into a negative person.

• Anger against people you dislike
• Jealousy at the fame of others
• Grudge against people who rub you the wrong way
• Pessimism about your life
• Inferiority complex about yourself
• Low self-esteem about the way your life is shaping up.

Shall we have a peep at the many more unwanted emotions which dominate your life?

1. JEALOUSY

You feel jealous when others are more successful than you are. You deliberately give them wrong advice with the cruel intention of making them fail.

You are never truthful to people who trust you when you are jealous.

You feel everyone are lucky, except you.

So, you totally lose focus on the good things you have. You are so keyed up with jealousy that you do not want others to have what you do not have.

If you are unsuccessful, you want others to be unsuccessful.

If you are unhappy, you want others to be unhappy also.

You feel you can be happy only when others suffer.

2. ARROGANCE

You think so great about yourself that you feel others are pigmies before you. You are so conceited about your success that you look down on others with contempt.

You never know the difference between pride and arrogance.

Pride is all about self-respect and self-esteem. If you do not cultivate it, you will be battered around by everyone worth their name.

But, arrogance makes you feel you are the greatest. You behave as though others are no match to you. People do not like you for this. They shy away from you. Your arrogance makes you lead a life of self-inflicted loneliness.

3. Anger

Anger destroys relationships and friendships. When you are angry, you utter words that hurt others. This makes them deviate from you as they feel you are not worthy of their attention.

Anger makes your children hate you.

Anger destroys your married life.

Anger makes you lose your friends.

It is the most wrecking among the unwanted emotions of your life.

4.Grudge 

You have grudge against many people. When people rub you the wrong way you develop grudge against them.

You spend your time thinking of all sorts of punishment for the person you dislike.

You never forgive. You never forget. You become bitter and resentful.

You hold on to the grudge you felt against the person as if your life depended on it.

This is the wrong way to deal with grudge.

The person who made you unhappy has no place in your life. So, forgo your grudge and forgo the person behind it. Be done with it. It relieves your mind.

5. Fear

The most dangerous of the unwanted emotions.

You fear almost everything in your life. You fear your future. You fear your boss. You fear your spouse. You fear people. You fear trying, as you are terrified that you might fail.

When you have fear, you wake up feeling terrified and end your day feeling terrified. In the in-between time also, you are terrified.

Why should you fear anyone or anything?

Be fearless to take life in its stride.

6. Low self esteem

When you have low self-esteem, you do not like yourself. You easily get into depression as you feel you are worthless.

You shrink your life into a miserable existence of putting others in a pedestal and feeling very low about yourself.

You are not well-groomed. You look gloomy and unsmiling. You become a loner, as you do not have the confidence of mingling with people.

7. Negative attitude

You think there is nothing to feel proud about your life.

You always feel that success cannot be yours.

“It can’t be done.”

“I don’t think it is possible.”

‘I don’t feel it will work out.”

Words you frequently utter when you have a negative attitude.

You do not appreciate the good things in your life.

You are invariably focused on your problems and not the solutions.

8. Shyness

You freeze with shyness when you talk with strangers.

You are very self-conscious.

You feel people are constantly watching you and judging you.

You do not talk firmly.

Your shyness makes murmur inaudible words when talking with others.

9. Inferiority complex

When you have inferiority complex, you compare yourself in a lesser light with others.

Your complex makes you very meek and submissive.

You are jealous of others as you feel they are better off than you.

You never try to succeed as you get used to your mediocre life.

10. Depression

You easily feel depressed when you face even a minute failure.

You lead a recluse sort of life.

You never mingle with your family also.

You are often suicidal prone.

CONCLUSION

Can you see how unwanted emotions play such a vital part in your life?

“Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.” Joel Osteen

Never allow unwanted emotions to dominate you, as it will eventually destroy your life. Your emotions generate from you. So, rule over your emotions. You will make your life happy. But, if emotions rule over you, your life is a drudgery of unhappiness and gloominess.