Do you know unless you overcome dejection in life, you can never hope to be happy?

If you feel so, happiness, contentment and satisfaction disappears from your life. And you cannot live your life without these key ingredients.

Life is short and you live it only once. And it is no use wallowing in dejection that your life is not what you expected it to be.

It is because when you are dejected, you feel as though your life is hopeless and worthless.

“No one seems to love and care for me. I feel so lonely in my life.  There are times dejection about the way things are in my life makes me suicidal prone” my fifty-seven-year-old friend told me.

“Why do you feel so? You have two children. You have your husband to look after you” I consoled her.

“You don’t properly understand my plight. My husband is always after money. My children are busy with their family. I spend most of my time alone. Sometimes I feel being loving is not worth it, because your love is not returned by own family” my friend was confirmed that her family did not love her.

“You should understand that your children have their own life to lead. Though they love you, your children cannot spend that much time with you. You have done your duties as a parent properly. Now is the time to enjoy yourself” I rationalized with my friend.

“But I need the love of my family more than anything else. Nothing else matters to me. When my family does not acknowledge the sacrificies I have made for them, it makes me feel used and uncared. I have tons of money, but my world is silent and still” my friend was inconsolable.

“Then concentrate on making yourself happy. Start it by doing things you like. And also bring happiness into your life by being your best friend” I smiled at her.

My friend looked confusingly at me.

“When you depend on others for your happiness you will feel dejected and depressed as no one can give you the attention you crave for. But when become your own friend, you will not feel lonely. When you take care of yourself, you do not feel used. So, do things you like most. Spend time for yourself. Be active and do not brood” I advised her.

You too often experience dejection in life, don’t you?

It is because most of you want others to make you happy. If you let this feeling take root in your mind, you feel depressed and dejected. You should understand the simple fact that not a single soul can give you the attention and love your mind demands.

Do you know emotional dependency is the topmost reason you experience dejection in life?

And your wrong approach to life makes you feel that you are born to suffer.

Life is never easy. It is always the survival of the fittest. When you experience multiple problems in your life, you are all at seas not knowing how to handle it.

Let us look at the many reasons which make you face dejection in life.

• Many a time you are rebuffed and thrust aside as useless and unworthy.
• Your loved ones ignore you.
• Your long due promotion goes to your subordinates.
• Your family life is in shambles.
• Your love has failed.
• Your financial position is not worth mentioning.
• Your children are disobedient and do not care for you.

Phew!

Quite a lot of reasons for feeling utter dejection in life, isn’t it?

But these are normal problems almost everyone in the world have.

But you feel only you are suffering and so become dejected about it. When you pin your happiness around others, you can never be happy in your life.

Mind you.

If you continue making this mistake, you will be trampled all through your life.

Never ever build your happiness around others because invariably you will be disappointed when they go about their work without catering to your emotional needs.

Here are valid reasons and solutions for dejection in life

1.Failures makes you dejected

You often face failures in all spheres of your life.

You have love failure.

You are not successful in your profession.

Your hard work never pays.

Your marriage fails.

These makes you feel so depressed that your mind becomes gloomy and miserable. The continuous failures you face in your life, makes you wonder whether you will succeed at all.

You are wrong in feeling so.

Solutions

Your failures do not stamp you as unworthy. Failures do not mean the end of your life. Rebuffs do not make you any lesser.

Do you know the highly successful people you are in awe with had faced utter failures in their life?

It is their continuous grit that finally made them victorious.

You too must have the grit to succeed. You too must keep trying. You too must take failures as part of your life.

2. Your failed relationship makes you utterly dejected

In this modern world, married life is very tough. You continuously struggle to hold your marriage together.

When you face relationship issues with your spouse, you are emotionally shattered. You become cynical when your love loses its sheen despite you being loving and caring.

You cannot believe that your relationship is so short lived when your marriage gallops towards divorce.

Naturally your failed marriage makes you experience dejection in life.

Solutions

No problem is without a solution, provided you go all out to solve it.

Your relationship with your spouse can also be resurrected. All you have to do is to overlook the minor faults of your spouse.

Concentrate on the positive aspects of your spouse and overlook his\her negative aspects.

Keep communicating with your spouse.

Do not feel egoistic to apologize to your spouse.

Be appreciative.

Be kind and sympathetic.

When you embed these qualities into your married life, you can enjoy excellent relationship with your spouse.

3. Your financial mess makes you dejected

Do you know eighty percent of the reasons for dejection in life is related to money.

The whole world has turned mercenary and unless you have money you are not respected. And it is tough to earn money that you need.

You mess up your financial position by plunging yourself into debts by spending unthinkingly.

Loans make you dread your life. You are terrified by the magnitude of your money problems.

Solutions

Always remember that money does not decide your happiness.

It decides your social status, nothing else.

Your debts do not come to your voluntarily. You go towards it by using your credit cards and your debit cards at will.

You readily swipe your cards without any rational thought and tie your life into a messy financial knot.

Always spend within your limits.

Save and spend.

Use your credit and debit cards sparingly.

Simple techniques to forgo money related problems in your life.

4. The success of others makes you dejected

You feel overwhelmed with dejection in life when your friends\relatives flourish while you have to eat from hand to mouth.

You gape at their wealth and feel you are not good enough.

You feel small before their diamonds, cars and bungalows. You are utterly dejected by your lack of luck in not being as wealthy as your friends or relatives.

Solutions

The success of others is not a scale to decide your happiness.

Never ever compare your life with others. Understand that no one in this world can have everything in life. You are blessed with different things while others are blessed with different things.

Do not think you are less just because you are not rich. If being rich was a criterion for feeling happy, then only the rich can be happy. You well know that it is not the case. Most of the rich people lead a lonely life.

So, concentrate on the good aspects of your life.

Work hard to acquire the social status you crave for. When you are dedicated to your work, the wheels of fortune will definitely take you to the top.

5.Your past life makes you dejected

When your childhood was abusive you hate to think about it. Your past mistakes make you feel utterly dejected. Your missed opportunities make you cringe in remorse.

You wallow in self-pity at your foolishness in mishandling your life. You shut out the outside world as you do not have the courage to face them.

Solutions 

Do not shut yourself from the outside world and live a life of a recluse. You will feel hopeless. When you mingle with people, you will understand that everyone has problems and that you are not a lone case of failure.

When you lose your smile, you lose everything that is good in your life. I sometimes wonder how people can spend their life without smiling.

It would be worthless wouldn’t it?

Why do you brood about your unhappy past when it has passed into the past tense?

Why do you fear the future when you never know what is going to happen to you?

Are your shoulders stooped in worry?

Straighten it!

Do you feel worthless?

Overcome the feeling.

Does your reflection shows your eyes shifty, shoulders sagging, lips drawn down and forehead frowning  in dejection?

You will hate yourself.

Overcome the feeling that your problems are there to stay with you. No problems stay with you. It comes with a tag- solutions

No failures continue. Trying again and again makes you succeed.

Conclusion

“You are overwhelmed, overscheduled, and dejected because you keep trying to have it all – or at least most of it. You want a fulfilling job and personal life, and it’s not working. The way out? Work more.” Mary H.K. Choi

“This too shall pass” is the mantra you should follow. It is a mantra which makes you live your life in your own terms and conditions. And it is a mantra to fight dejection in life.

Life always gives you two choices

Live and enjoy.

Feel dejected and lose your life.

So, choose to live your life to the full. You can do it only when you lose your dejection. You owe it to yourself.