You are emotionally shattered when life is destroyed in seconds, aren’t you?
I woke up with a start hearing the shrill sound of the telephone bell ringing.
I picked up the phone. The news I heard shocked me.
It was the shocking news that my friend who had talked with me in the morning was dead. It was unbelievable. My friend called me about going with her family for a boat ride in a famous South Indian tourist spot.
“My children had been asking for it for a long time. I too want to take a break, you know” my friend laughingly told me. She sounded excited at her planned tour. To imagine her no more, stunned me.
It seems the boat she went with her family was overloaded and capsized in the middle of the river. Since my friend did not know swimming, she drowned. My friend who was all happiness in the morning was lifeless in the evening.
‘Why did this have to happen to her?” I agonizingly asked myself a thousand times. But I had no answer to it.
Most of you feel emotionally shattered when many traumatic incidents happens in your life, without any warning.
When life is destroyed in seconds, you are left with nothing. You are happy one second and everything is taken away from you the next second.
Such is the fragility of life.
You cannot predict anything in your life. Anything can happen to you. Accidents, death, and natural calamities are so sudden that your life is destroyed in seconds.
This is the reason why you should live your life properly. You live only once. So, your life is all the more precious.
Most of you waste your life in unwanted habits, unwanted emotions, and unwanted hatred.
Never ever do it. You will regret it forever.
Life is destroyed in seconds – 10 Ways to live it better!
1. Concentrate on yourself
No one will live it for you.
Only you can take care of yourself. Do not depend on others to make you happy.
It is because no one has the capacity to give you the happiness you need. Only you can give it to yourself.
So, do not feel guilty to be a wee bit self-centered.
Do not allow anyone to intrude into your life.
Only you should decide what should be done with your life. Only you have the right to do it. Never allow anyone to dictate terms and conditions to you.
Do not give too much importance to what others will think and forgo things you want to do.
Do not wallow in self-pity and ruin your life.
Unless you take care of yourself, no one will do it for you.
2. Forgive yourself
Do not be too harsh on your mistakes. You will never have a moment of peace.
Forgive your past mistakes. They are done with.
But, never repeat the same mistakes again in your life. Forgive your unhappy past and never allow it to intrude into your present life.
Your unhappy past teaches you many precious lessons. Take the lessons your past mistakes taught you and throw away your past misery.
Forgive your past nonperformance. Your present performance is all that matters.
Yes!
Concentrate on your present life and make it good.
3. Indulge yourself
Being duty conscious is very good. But only duties and no pleasure can make your life very stifling and boring.
Do you crave for shopping?
Do it. But within your budget. Do not become addicted to throwing away your hard-earned money to fulfill all your whims and pleasures.
Do you want to learn music?
Learn it.
Do you want to go on a vacation?
Plan it.
Do you want to change your appearance?
Go ahead.
It is no use living for others when you do not live for yourself.
4. Learn new things
Is there an age to learn?
No.
Do not live a worthless life of routineness.
Learn something new.
I learned to operate a computer only when I was in my mid-fifties. I started writing only when I was fifty six.
So, age is not a factor in learning something new.
When you refresh your knowledge, your brain is refreshed. When your brain is refreshed, you enjoy your life.
Everyone have some talent.
You too have one. Never let it die without noticing it.
Bring it out in the open. Make use of it to transform your life for the good.
5. Love the individual in you
Never ever, degrade yourself. Do not think you are not good enough.
You can never be happy if you do so.
Think that you are worthy. Cherish the goodness in you.
Throw away your negative qualities.
Chisel yourself into a wonderful human being.
You definitely can do it.
6. Appreciate yourself
Appreciating the goodness in you is very essential to make your life happy. Unless you appreciate yourself, you will never feel good.
Do not wait for appreciation from others. You might not get it.
Did you work to your full potential on a day?
Appreciate yourself. It motivates you to do better and better.
Have you helped someone?
Appreciate that you are very humane and compassionate.
It makes you to help others with eagerness.
There are many things you do that deserves your appreciation.
Appreciating yourself is a great motivator. It molds you into a better person.
7. Be active
Do not waste your life idling around.
Do not laze about, doing nothing.
Do not become a couch potato as if your life depended on television.
Do not be a midafternoon riser. Your day is lost for you.
Exercise regularly.
Eat healthy food.
Avoid junk food – the number one cause for many health related problems.
Do gardening.
Clean your house.
Go for long walks.
Play with your children.
Spend quality time with your spouse.
Being active is the best way to enjoy your life.
8. Live for the present
Most of you plan your future elaborately not knowing what is in store for you. Often what you plan is not going to happen.
This does not mean that you should never plan your future life. You can and you must.
But do not be too concentrated on your future life as you will lose insight about your present day life.
So, concentrate on today.
When you live your present the proper way your future will take care of itself.
9. Never live like an island
Do not shut yourself at home and become a recluse. The world will forget your existence.
You must mingle with people for a peaceful existence. You will need the help of others in some phase of your life.
When you interact with other people, you understand many things about life.
You often realize how blessed you are, when you hear their problems.
10. Count your blessings
Most of you never do it.
Do you wake up each day hale and healthy? – Topmost blessing.
Do you have a good family? – God sent blessing.
Imagine yourself without these blessings. You are nothing.
CONCLUSION
Can you see how you should live as life is destroyed in seconds?
Yes!
Life is fickle and unpredictable. Your life can turn upside down in one second.
So, be happy every second you live. Your life is that precious and valuable. Never let it rust away by letting it off your hook.
Mathi Surendran is passionate in writing about relationships and life. She is also the founder of the relationship blog