Do you know that loneliness in old people feels dreadful to them?

The feeling that there is no one to look after you in your old age, is a trauma you do not want to experience in your life. As a normal human being, your mind seeks emotional support from your near and dear ones to feel emotionally protected and secure in your life.

How does loneliness in old age happen?

Loneliness in old age evolves through the emotional mistakes you constantly make, when you are young. In your young age, you are more concentrated on your own selfish needs. So, you commit many mistakes which makes your family withdraw from you.

• In your youth, you are interested to live your life to the full.
• You want to explore your world, alone.
• You want to enjoy your time with your friends.
• You are also addicted to your social media.
• Your day begins and ends in being glued to Facebook, Instagram and other social media platforms.

In the bargain, you ignore to nurture your relationship with your parents, spouse and children. When you ignore to nurture relationships in the prime of your life, you are awarded loneliness in old age as a prize money.

In actual fact, the whole world is experiencing aloof and uncared relationships. The world has become that fast paced and competitive. As you are constantly chasing money, you do not have time to interact with your family. When you do not spend time with your near and dear ones, it is more liking setting up your own lonely world.

Here are some mistakes you constantly commit, which makes loneliness in old age happen to you.

Loneliness because of family

When you are young, you do not nurture your relationship with your family. You are least bothered by the emotional distance you experience with them. You feel you can live through your life, doing your own thing, without depending on your family. You are smug, that you do not need their emotional support to feel cherished and treasured in your life.

You rarely communicate with your spouse. If at all you talk with your spouse, it is almost always about some innocuous family problems. You are also a strict parent with your children. You are not friendly with them. Naturally, your children grow up without feeling emotionally connected with you.

Your family also get used to your distant behavior, and distance themselves from you. You live in the same house with your spouse and children, but withdrawn and aloof in your own world.

When you do not have time to nurture your relationship, your family life is drastically affected. After your children grow up, they become independent, financially and emotionally. They move into their own personal space. They give more importance to their friends, than to you.

The distance between you and your children, widens even more after they marry. After marriage, the top priority of your children become their own family. As years pass by, they gradually outgrow you. Your children love you, but they do not have the time to spend with you.

How you long for emotional support in your old age?

Though you did not crave for the emotional support of your spouse or children when you were young, you long for their emotional protection in your old age. It is because as you age, you become mentally and physically weak. You experience many health-related issues and financial issues during your old age.

When you lose your mental strength in your old age, you become emotionally dependent on your loved ones, to find some substance in your life. Since you failed to nurture your relationship with your children\spouse in your young age, you lose your emotional connectivity with them in your old age.

You now understand, that the emotional support of your family means even more in your old age to feel loved and cared.

Whatever might be the reasons behind your loneliness in old age, you must overcome it. Unless you know the tricks to embrace your old age, you will constantly feel lonely in the later stages of your life.

Why your old age is God sent?

Old age is just a biological aging. Your mind stays as young as you want it to be. But most old people feel cynical and skeptical, and spend their life brooding and worrying about their life. As you age, your cynicism increases and your moodiness now becomes even more pronounced.

Do all aged people feel lonely in their life?

No.

I have seen many old people who enjoy their old age as a peaceful phase of their life.

Yes!

Your old age is the most relaxed and peaceful period of your life. It is true you become physically weak, but your mind does not age or weaken. You feel that you are left in the lurch in this harsh world, only when negative thoughts enter your mind.

You should not waste away your old age, as it is the most precious phase of your life. You had so far suppressed all your wishes for your family. Your duties towards your family are finally over. In your old age, you can fulfill all your wishes you had denied yourself so far.

• You should engage yourself in activities, which will suit your physical condition.
• Do not ever let go your well-groomed looks.
• It commands respect and admiration of others.
• Do not look glum and gloomy.
• Interact with others with a smile.
• Stoop to the mental level of youngsters, and interact with them in friendliness.

Develop hobbies that does not need hard physical activities. Computer is a blessing in your old age. Do not get addicted to anything in your life.

Conclusion 

Enjoy your old life as a relaxed phase of your life. Do not have too much emotional attachement on your children. Take good care of your health. Keep your mind active. This automatically makes you enjoy the best things the world can offer you, even if you are aged.