Do you know overcoming inferiority complex needs input only from you?

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt       

“I feel that everyone is better off than me and God is cruel in giving me so much pain. I do not have money . And I am terrified of my future” l told my mother with anguish.

Those were the terror days of debts and having no money for my basic needs. After my husband passed away, I felt I was an unlucky person who was born to suffer. I felt lesser than others and thought I was no match to anyone.

My brother was watching me wallowing in self-pity.

“Do not feel inferior about yourself. It will destroy your confidence. Money is not a criterion to decide your happiness. Money comes and goes and you too will be well off one day. You should pat yourself for the courage with which you have withstood all the hardships you experienced. I think you are now doing an excellent job as a single parent” my brother smiled at me.

His words were a revelation to me. I knew I had no reasons to feel inferior about myself. I was as good as anyone else.  When I felt that I too was worthy, this feeling boosted my courage.

And I have never felt inferior to anyone to this date.

Real reasons why you feel you are no good. 

You are always comparing

You often compare your life with others.

Comparison embeds many complexities into your mind.

You eye the elevated social status of your colleagues\friends\relatives.

And when your financial status is no match to your friends or relatives, you feel inferior. You cringe in inferior complex that your lifestyle is very mediocre compared to them.

The success of others make you feel dejected that you are an abject failure.

2. You feel you lack intelligence

When you lack the intelligence of your colleagues\friends\relatives, you feel awe-struck by their efficiency and competence.

You feel that you will never achieve their success as your knowledge is nowhere near your friends or colleagues.

You feel absolutely downcast that you lack their ability and capability.

3. You give too much importance to what others think about you

You do not know your capacity You do not know how much you can achieve in your life.

It is because you do not know yourself.

But you give too much importance to the negative comments other people make about you.

You believe in their destructive comments and feel lesser about yourself.

4. You are always self-conscious

You are way too self conscious about yourself.

You think negatively that others are watching you and judging that you are not good enough.

5. You think you are a failure

Repeated failures and rejections inflict a sense of  low opinion about you. You feel that you do not have the capacity to achieve any success.

6. You do not like your appearance.

You feel your looks are not good enough.

So, you never present a well-groomed look to the outside world. Unkempt looks and shabby dressing shoots up the feeling inferiority complex within you.

7. You do not have a great opinion about you

If you must achieve success in your life, you must consider yourself as worthy of achieving great heights.

But when you have inferiority complex, you consider yourself as a non-entity.

8. Abusive childhood

When you were unlucky to have undergone an abusive childhood, you feel it is not worth talking about.

Your parents might have inflicted terrible hurt in you when you were a child. Their abusive words might have embedded inferiority complex in you.

You also might have been a byproduct of a broken marriage and your childhood might have been torn between your parents. So, you become withdrawn and morose.

Can you see how varied the reasons for your inferiority complex are?

Whatever might be the reason for your inferiority complex; this is a wrong way to live your life.

Overcoming inferiority complex is the only way to make your life peaceful and worthy.

What are the repercussions of your inferiority complex?

It can literally destroy your life as you lack the confidence and verve to succeed.

You withdraw into a shell and refuse to venture out of it. The result is that you become more of a recluse. This is dangerous to your  life as you need people to succeed.

When you avoid people, you cannot understand life in its proper perspective. Your reticent nature makes others evade you and you are left all alone. You become even more withdrawn and unforthcoming.

Overcoming inferiority complex is the only way to live your life properly.

Overcoming inferiority complex in different aspects of life

Overcoming inferiority complex about money.

Money is very important to lead your life on your own terms and conditions.  Money gives you a great buying capacity. It gives you an awesome standard of living.

Though the power of money is awesome, it has nothing to do with your happiness.

If you feel inferior, just because you are not as affluent as your friends\colleagues\relatives, you are making a grave mistake.

Why do you want to compare your life with people who are more affluent than you are and feel inferior?

There are many people who do not have your money.

So, stop comparing yourself with others. When you interact with people who are more of your status, you do not feel inferior to them.

Overcoming inferiority complex about success

Everyone has his own pace and talent. Your colleagues\friends might be more talented than you are. This makes you feel you are not good enough and feel inferior about yourself.

You are wrong in feeling so.

You are not inferior to your colleague just because he is more talented than you are. There is always slight variations of intelligence in every single person.

While some are more gifted, the others are a little slow in catching up. If you become keyed-up by your lack of intelligence, there is no hope to improve in your life.

Work at your pace. Keep improvising your work. Keep updating your knowledge. One day you too will achieve the success you so envy in others.

Instead, if you wallow in inferiority complex you will not move an inch forward towards your success.

Overcoming inferiority complex regarding your appearance

Most of you do not like your appearance. You gape at the good looks of your friends\colleagues and feel you are nothing compared to them.

You feel your eyes are not good. You feel your height is not tall enough. You feel you are a little too obese. You keep feeling so low about your appearance that you become inhibited and self-conscious about your looks.

Instead of improving your appearance, you gape at others in awe.

Do you know everyone are good looking in their own way?

You too can improve your looks by taking care of your appearance and by being well-groomed.

When you are presentable, you will be amazed to see that your tidy and neat appearance boosts up your self-confidence as nothing else can do.

It is an easiest way of overcoming your inferiority complex.

Overcoming inferiority complex about abusive childhood.

Bitter childhood can inflict tremendous hurt and leave you emotionally scarred.

It is indeed pathetic that you did not enjoy a happy childhood. But, it is no use feeling depressed about your pathetic past and ruining the present period of your life.

When you are a byproduct of a broken marriage, you feel shattered at your lost childhood days. You develop many complexities in you. And inferiority complex is one of them.

You are wrong.

You cannot bear the cross for the mistakes of your parents. Take valuable lessons from the relationship blunders of your parents.

Lead a good family life and give your children a healthy and friendly atmosphere at home which you missed as a child.

Overcoming inferiority complex about your failures

Consistent failures shatters your morale drastically. You feel you are no good. You feel you are born to be defeated.

You are wrong in feeling so.

Failures are nothing but a warning that you are doing things wrongly and you should try differently. It is actually a blessing in disguise.

It makes you do things in a different and more successful manner.

Overcoming inferiority complex inflicted by the comments of others

Never be bothered by what others say about you. Giving too much importance to it will only make you lose your peace of mind. Close your ears to the negative comments of others and concentrate on improving yourself.

When you are too inhibited, you feel self-conscious about yourself. Even a glance from others is enough to make you feel that there is something wrong with your appearance or behavior.

Do not do it.

Feel confident about yourself and think you are very worthy.

Unless you mingle with people, you can never overcome your shyness. If you are withdrawn, you will be shunned by others. Everyone will be more than eager to interact with you if you are smiling and friendly.

CONCLUSION

You should be first person to like yourself.

Do you know why?

If you have a low opinion about yourself, it shatters your morale and makes you dull and insipid. If you like yourself, you are always energetic and eager to have a go at your work and become successful.

“The difference ness of races, moreover, is no evidence of superiority or of inferiority. This merely indicates that each race has certain gifts which the others do not possess.” –  Carter G. Woodson.

Think for a moment

Do you ever feel happy when you think inferior about yourself?

No.

You do not.

You feel terrible and unhappy.

So, never degrade yourself. Never feel you are no good, because in fact you are very good.

Only thing is that you have never realized it. The day you realize your worthiness, you will find it easy in overcoming your inferiority complex.