There are times toxic people literally unnerve you by their toxic behavior, don’t they?

You often wish that these toxic people would just disappear from your life.

Your reaction towards the toxic people in your life is often varied.

There are times you tolerate the toxic attitude of the people around you.  There are times you retaliate against it. There are times you simply ignore it. But there is never a time you like it.

You are angry at the audacity of these toxic people who make your life wretched, aren’t you?

What exactly is a toxic behavior?

It is the negative attitude of some people who make you feel gloomy and cloudy when you interact them.

There are many ways toxic people make your life torturous.

• Toxic people whine and crib about their life as if they were the only one suffering in the whole world.
• There are times they try to rule over you in very clinging way.
• Toxic people deliberately utter words doubting your ability with the cruel intention of demoralizing you.
• Their negativity invariably thrusts pessimism into your life, whether you like it or not.

You literally hate to be around such negative people, don’t you?

Most of you think that anger and depression are the common toxic behavior of people.

No!

There are many more.

7 types of toxic people who display toxic behavior – Simple solutions to avoid them

1. The clingy people

You need your own personal space more than anything else in your life.

You cannot give all your time to anyone. When you do not have your own personal zone, you will suffocate without the oxygen of freedom you drastically need to be yourself.

But, the clingy toxic behavior of your friend\spouse\relative demands your total attention in the name of love. He\she wants you to be his\her doormat always.

The toxic person plays the martyr to make you feel that you are not doing enough for him\her.

Your nerves creep up in anger at this blatant intrusion into your personal den, doesn’t it?

Solution

When toxic people demand more than what you can give, you must act instantly by drawing clear boundaries around you.

Like how a lion does!

A lion does not allow any intruder into its personal territory. Other animals will be chased away if they dared to enter a lion’s territory. 

Understand that your life is your own. And the person who will live with you until the day you die is only you. So, you should first take care of yourself.

Make your life a lion’s den where trespassers into you private zone will be shoved away, firmly and authoritatively.

2. The negative people

It is not enough if you are positive. You need people around to you to be positive also. It is all fine to say that you should not let the negativity of the other person to affect you.

When the air around you is polluted, you have no other go than to breathe it in. Even when you mask your nose, the toxicity in the air enters your lungs.

This is what happens when you mingle with negative people. Their negativity has a definite dismal effect on you.

You might be brimming with positivity about your life.

But your negative friend\colleague\relative pulls the air of hope out of you by their toxic behavior.

Your positive attitude says everything is possible in life.

The negative attitude of the toxic people around you says nothing is possible.

You are sure that you will the successful.

But, the negative people around you clouds your positivity by raining comments about how impossible it is to be successful.

You feel drained when you interact with such negative people, don’t you?

Solution

Avoid talking with negative people who pull your energy level down.

Make sure they do not steal your confidence.

Shut your ears to their negativity.

Never let the negative person rub his toxic behavior on you.

3. The dominating people

This is yet another toxic behavior you should never tolerate.

When you let another person dominate you, your life is not yours. When you meekly surrender to the domination of anyone, he\she sucks the life out of you.

When your life is not yours, you are nothing but a slave.

Do you want to know how much domination affects your life?

When your friend\relative is dominating, he rules over your life.

He tells you how to do your work.

He decides how to go about your life.

He sometimes forces you to do things you do not like.

Your personal wishes and desires are crushed by your dominating friend\relative that you shrivel into nothingness under its volcanic impact.

Solution

Is not your life worth more than being a yes sir to some other person?

Your life should be decided only by you. When you allow another person to dictate terms and conditions to you, your life is nothing but a self-inflicted imprisonment.

So, put your foot firmly down to any sort of domination in your life.

4. The time stealing people

I have a neighbor who is always on the prowl searching for a prey to tell her stories.

If she does not find anyone, she literally barges into their house to steal their time.

One day I was a victim to her time stealing behavior. I was busy writing a post to be published on that day. I had an excellent flow and I was busily typing my contents.

I winced with irritation when the doorbell rang shrilly. I opened the door to see my neighbor waiting impatiently. Believe it or not, she stayed two hours with me talking about her family.

She told me how she much she had struggled to bring up her children. I had already heard it an umpteenth time. She was complaining about her health. I had heard it an umpteenth time. I was bored to death when she was reeling out details about her family.

How did my neighbor imagine that I could be interested in her life?

Her life had nothing to do with me. When she left, she had stolen two solid hours of my writing time. These toxic people are nothing, but time stealers.

They never know the value of time. They never know that other people will have their own work to do.

Solutions

Learn the trick of cutting short these time stealers.

Tell them that you are going out. This might make them push away from you.

There is nothing wrong in lying to these toxic people as otherwise they will never leave you.

5. The fake people

Fake people are the ugliest of the toxic people. There is not an iota of truth in these fake people. They are all smiles before you and all sneer behind your back.

They never tell the truth. They pretend to be caring which they are not.

They are not happy when you succeed, though they hide it behind their false caring words.

Fake people have two faces.

They are the most dangerous of the category of toxic people, as you never know how to penetrate their mask of deceitful goodness.

Solution

Never take their word with total trust, as you know the fakeness behind it.

Make fake people understand that you have seen through them.

Limit your interaction with them.

When they lie shamelessly, point out their lies to them.

6. The gossiping people

Gossiping people gossip for their enjoyment. They just cannot do without it. They gossip about everyone around you. They say what you want to hear about the people you dislike.

You are wrong in doing so.

When a person gossips about others, it is only natural that they will gossip about you also. They ask probing questions to extract a story from you, so that they can gossip about you.

Solution.

Never share your secrets with a gossip monger and give him something to chew upon.

When the gossiper gossips about another person tell him bluntly that you do not want to hear it.

7. The degrading people

Toxic people degrade you to make you feel that you are no good. It is their way of venting their inferiority complex on you. A person with decency never degrades another person.

The degrading type of toxic people degrade your ability. They degrade your looks. They degrade your life.

They degrade you in such a way that you feel that you are a non-entity.

Solution

If you observe these degrading people, you will see that they do not have confidence in themselves. And they do not have decency also.

Make them take a step back from you with your confidence.

They are unworthy of their presence in your life. So, throw them away from your life.

CONCLUSION

“Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.” – John Mark Green

Of course, you cannot expect everyone to behave in a way you like. But negative people poison your life with their toxic behavior.

Toxic people are like poisonous fumes in your life. If you inhale it, your life is gone. So, self-armor yourself by staying miles away from toxic people before they suck your positivity right out of your life.