“Why is happiness so hard to find in my life?”

I am sure you must have asked this question an umpteenth time.

I am also sure, that you still have not got an answer to this question. Most of you feel that you were born unlucky to experience only unhappiness in your life. You are all the more dejected when you see many smiling faces around you.

“What is it these people have got, that I do not have?”

This is also a question you must have asked yourself a million times in your life. You feel everyone are happy in their life, expect you. You conclude, that it is your misfortune that is making you experience only unhappiness in your life.

You are wrong, if you feel so. There is not a single person in this world who do not have problems. If you see people smiling, in spite of their problems, it just means one thing. They feel confident that their problems would one day get resolved. This confident mindset is missing in you, if you feel unhappy about your life.

You too should see life in its right perspective, if you must feel happy in your life.

Shall we see why happiness is so hard to experience in your life?

The no 1 reason why happiness is so hard is you want everything to happen your way

You want everything to happen as you want to. You want your spouse\children to behave in a way you like. Many a time, it does not happen. Instead of accepting it as normal, you act as though something abnormal has happened to you. What you do not understand is, nothing will happen according to your expectations.

You also do not understand that, nothing in life is instant. You expect instant success. You want instant promotion. You want instant salary hike. When this becomes impossible, you feel wretched about your life.

Having high expectations only leads your life into inevitable unhappiness.

The no 2 reason why happiness is so hard is fear of failure

You want to be successful. This is to be expected. But you do not try for your success, as you are constantly in fear that you will fail, even if you try hard. So, you put off trying for your success. Naturally, you are a failure in your life.

In your fear, you shun from meeting people. You also fear coming out of your comfort zone. Fear accompanies you all through your life, making you feel lost and unhappy.

When fear plays a dominant role in your life, happiness will elude you, forever. Fear is the number one deterrent characteristic which prevent happiness from entering your life.

The no 3 reason why happiness is so hard is comparison

Yet another topmost reason for your unhappiness, is constantly comparing your life with that of others. You feel miserable that everyone is successful, while you are an abject failure.

You feel your friends\colleagues\relatives are wealthy, while you lead a hand to mouth sort of a life. When you fail to count your blessings, you will only feel dejected about your life. The life of other people is not a parameter for you to compare your life.

Unless you concentrate on your life, you cannot feel happy. Unless you count your blessing, you will only feel that you have nothing in your life to feel happy about.

The no 4 reason why happiness is so hard is remembering your unhappy past

Your past life might have been miserable and wretched. You might have felt tremendous pain during your past. You might have faced tons of rebuffs and rejections.

You commit the mistake of bringing the unhappy memories of your miserable past into your present life, and feel unhappy about what had happened to you. You must understand that your past life is done with, and has no place in your present life.

Your miserable past should only act as life lessons. It should not in any way enter your present life to make you feel unhappy.

The no 5 reason why happiness is so hard is wanting everyone to like you

You want everyone in your life, to like and respect you. What you do not understand is that, it is impossible to please everyone and make them like you.

You must live your life as you want to, without changing yourself to please others. The people who are pleased with you one day, will demand some other thing from you to feel pleased by you. When you are concentrated on pleasing others, you feel stressed and unhappy by their unending demands.

Your life is your own. Live it according to your desires and wishes, if you want to experience happiness in your life.

The 6 reason why happiness is so hard is guilty conscience

Guilty conscience kills your happiness and mental well-being. When you do something wrong, you do not think about its repercussions. You are that concentrated on the benefits you will get from your wrong doing.

But as days go by, you lose your mental peace. You realize that you had harmed someone to acquire something you wanted. Now, you feel guilty about the wrong done by you. Guilty conscience can slaughter your happiness in a killing manner.

So, do not trample people for your happiness. As one day, your guilt will trample your happiness.

The no 7 reason why happiness is so hard is setting too high a goal

It is understandable that you want to succeed in life. You have great dreams about being a successful person. This is the right mentality you should have if you must succeed.

But when you dream beyond your talent, your dreams will never happen. When your success eludes you, you feel unhappy thinking that you are the unluckiest person in the earth.

Thinking and dreaming about your success is just not enough. You should know where your talent lies and how much you can stretch yourself to acquire your dream. Having unrealistic dreams kills your happiness.

Conclusion

Can you see that there are many unknown reasons behind your inability to experience happiness in your life?

Being practical towards the happenings in your life helps you in many ways. No one can make you happy, if you are determined to be unhappy. Your happiness begins from within you. If you search for it elsewhere, you are going to get it.