Continuous failing in life, can be quite traumatic.
It is because, failing in life not only means defeats. It also means depleted self-esteem, washed-out financial position, and being thrust aside as not good enough, by everyone worth his name.
“I do not want to try anymore. I try so hard, but I faces only failures in my business. I think it would be much better, if I close my business and look for a job. At least a monthly income is guaranteed” my cousin looked completely out off, when I enquired about his business. My cousin was a hardworking man. But consistently failing in life made him worried about his financial future.
“Do not give up. You have given so much to your business, and to leave it half way would be sad. There must be a different way to do your business. Analyze it and keep trying” I encouraged my cousin.
This is an old story. My cousin is now a flourishing business man, because he overcame his mental block and dejection by his sheer will power. He put all his energy into his business, until he finally succeeded.
I too had faced many failures in my life. Consistent failing in life, made me wrongly assume that I was destined to suffer. I would compare the mammoth success of others to my mediocrity, and felt depressed that I was not good enough.
But I realized the feeling depressed was not going to help me in any way. I knew that unless I kept trying, I would become an abject failure. Though still far away from my dream of great success, I now have two blogs and three YouTube channels. As I have a blueprint for my success, I know for sure that one day I would achieve my dream.
Why do most of you fail?
Why cannot success come easily to you?
Why are you forced to struggle for long, long years before you see your shadow of success?
I am sure questions like this plague you.
Answers to all these questions are simple. You will not value your success, if you get it at the click of your fingers. If at all you acquire your success with ease, you will not hold on to it and will let it slide away from you by your smugness. Most of you think success in life is there to stay with you, once you have achieved it.
Your will be proved wrong, if you take your success for granted.
You must be more careful after you taste your success. If you give up your hard work, and sit back in complacency that the success you have achieved is permanent, you will be knocked out by the speed with which success deserts you. Many reasons contribute to you failing in life. If you plug the loopholes, you can cling to your success for a long time.
Here are 6 hardcore reasons why you keep failing in life
No 1. You are negative
When you are negative, you lack the drive to do your work with zest. You always believe that you will fail, if you take risks. So, you sit back thinking that luck will make success come to you. Success is like a mountain, and it never moves from its place. It is you, who must to learn the skills to climb up the peak to post your flag of triumph.
When you have negative thoughts, you cringe with fear that you might fail. In your fear for failure, you do nothing worthwhile to acquire your success. Your mind is feeble and weak. You always tell yourself “I will not succeed.” When the feeling that you cannot succeed gets embedded in your mind, it ceases to motivate you and becomes pliable to your negative thoughts.
Never ever commit this grave mistake.
Bid adieu to your negative thoughts, before they destroy you. It is true that failure depletes your energy, but you must up your mind to fight until the end. You should keep making intelligent moves for your success, and inevitably you will inch your way to your triumph.
No 2. You are meek and submissive
When you are meek and submissive, you will keep failing in life.
How do you feel when you enter a room full of strangers?
Do you feel confident enough to move towards them and start a conversation?
If you can interact with confidence with even strangers, it just means that you have great people’s skill. You will eventually win one day. But if your knees buckle in fear and tongue tied to face people, you cannot succeed. It is because you are so lacking in people’s skill, that it is inevitable that you will fail miserably in life.
Why do you fear people?
It is because, you are so overawed by the success of other people that place them in a high pedestal. You assume that successful people are some sort of super humans, and you are nothing compared to them.
You are doing it all wrong. Do not give undue credit to others, and demean yourself. Always think that you are as worthy as others. You should respect people, but do not ever fear them. Overcoming fear of people will take you one step forward towards your success.
No 3. You give up easily
When you do not taste immediate success, you lose your interest and drive. When you lose your interest, you will not try. When you do not try, it simply means that you are miles away from your success. You cannot move up the ladder of success in an instant, in any business or in any profession. You must work hard, for many years. You must be ready to face many defeats, before you can acquire success.
When you give up easily, you lose everything you had been trying so far. Your success might have been inches away from you, before you let go. So, never let go your trying. You must understand the simple fact that when you are trying, your chances of winning are hundred percent. If not now, a few years later.
4. You fear rejection
When you fear rejection, you will keep failing in life. You shrink yourself into a cocoon of dejection and depression, that you are not good enough. You will lose your confidence, when you feel you will be rejected.
One rejection does not mean the world has rejected you. This world is so versatile and multifaceted, that it has accommodation for anyone trying for success.
Rejection in one place might lead to yet another place, where your talent might be more appreciated. Do not become cowed down when anyone rejects you. It is not the end of life for you. When hundred people reject you, there are hundreds more to accept you.
So, do not fear any rejection, and be assured that you will get a better option than what you were rejected for.
5. You have a low opinion of yourself
When you have low opinion about yourself, your life will be mediocre and run-of-the-mill. You spend your days fearing people, fearing your job, fearing competition and fearing your dismal future.
Having low opinion about yourself will only lead your life to its inevitable failure. You should understand that you are unique in your own way. Do not allow others to intimidate you.
Always be well -groomed, as it boosts up your morale, as nothing else can do. Cultivate good body language. Look straight into the eyes of the person you are interacting with. Your shoulders should be straight, and your posture should be confident and assertive. Being confident is a habit you can easily develop. The result is amazing.
Conclusion
‘Success is not final; failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts’ –Winston Churchill
Unless you try, you will not know your talent. If you fear failure and stand static in one place, you will be trampled by others who are in a hurry to reach the winning post.
- Your mind should be positive.
- Your attitude should be assertive.
- Your intention should be honest.
- Your capacity should be polished.
- Your failures should be brushed aside.
When you make such positive changes in yourself, your life will automatically transit from the failing to the winning.
Mathi Surendran is passionate in writing about relationships and life. She is also the founder of the relationship blog